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Scenario

When your white parent uses problematic language about your appearance

My white mom keeps telling people I'm 'exotic looking' when she introduces me and I die a little inside every time but don't know how to tell her it makes me feel like a zoo animal.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The language of love can carry the embedded violence of othering, even from those closest to us.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Mixed-race identity and belonging?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.