LibraryScenariosWhen family shared calendars become control systems instead of coordination tools
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When family shared calendars become control systems instead of coordination tools

My family has this elaborate shared calendar system that was supposed to help us coordinate but now it feels like a surveillance system where every free moment gets claimed by someone else's idea of what we should be doing together. I miss having time that belongs to no one.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Your attempt to organize family time has paradoxically eliminated the possibility of unstructured, unclaimed time.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The examined calendar — whose time is it??”

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