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When parents disagree on social media restrictions after discovering self-harm posts

My husband and I discovered our 14-year-old has been cutting herself and posting about it on Instagram, and we're completely split on whether to take her phone away or try to monitor her more closely. He thinks I'm being too permissive and I think he's going to push her further underground, and meanwhile she's getting worse and we can't agree on anything.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are trying to protect someone they love but their different approaches to digital boundaries are creating paralysis when swift, unified action is needed.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Social media and adolescent mental health?”

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