My partner and I are driving each other crazy because I need to plan our evenings and weekends in advance and they prefer to see how things unfold, and we can't figure out how to make plans together without one of us feeling controlled or abandoned.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two different relationships to time are creating a fundamental incompatibility in how you structure shared life.
“Where Are You with Monochronic vs. polychronic cultures?”
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