My partner and I both hate how much we're on our phones but whenever one of us tries to put boundaries in place the other feels controlled or abandoned. We've downloaded focus apps and made rules about phone-free zones but somehow we always end up in arguments about the rules instead of actually changing anything.
More people experience this than they realize.
The harder you try to control the flow of digital attention together, the more you resist each other's attempts at change.
“Where Are You with The examined relationship with screens?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.