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When couples' health tracking becomes relationship surveillance

My partner and I both use fitness trackers that share data with each other for motivation but now they're commenting on my activity patterns and sleep schedule in ways that feel judgmental and invasive. I want to stop sharing but I'm worried it will hurt their feelings since they see it as us supporting each other's health goals.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Well-intentioned mutual monitoring can transform care into control without either person consciously choosing that dynamic.

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“Where Are You with Privacy and surveillance in digital life?”

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