My partner and I have been using dating apps for the past year to explore opening our relationship, but we keep getting into fights about who gets to message which people and when, and I think we're both secretly comparing ourselves to the matches the other person gets. We agreed this would bring us closer but it's creating weird competitions and insecurities we never had before.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people trying to share an inherently individual-oriented space discover that equality in digital desire is impossible to engineer.
“Where Are You with Dating apps — the examined life?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.