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When couples get stuck romanticizing life before children

My partner and I keep talking about how things were 'simpler' before we had kids and I think we're using those memories to avoid dealing with how hard things actually are now but when I say that they get defensive like I'm attacking our past happiness.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Nostalgia becomes a refuge that prevents honest engagement with present difficulties.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Nostalgia — its function and its limits?”

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