My partner and I meditate together every morning and we've been talking about how everything changes but when our routine actually gets disrupted we both get anxious and start grasping for control. We say we understand impermanence but we're terrible at actually living it when our shared rhythms fall apart.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're discovering that intellectual understanding of Buddhist teachings about change creates its own attachment when practiced as a couple.
“Where Are You with Buddhist impermanence and time?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.