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When couples clash over punctuality expectations in Asian family contexts

My partner and I moved back to be closer to his family and we're constantly late to everything because he insists on following 'Asian time' while I'm stressed about being disrespectful, but when I bring it up he says I'm being too Western and don't understand that showing up exactly on time can actually be rude.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two different relationships to time are creating a wedge between partners who need to find their own rhythm within cultural expectations.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with East Asian time and face-saving?”

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