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When pornography use creates ongoing tension between partners

My partner's porn use has become something that bothers me but I don't know if I'm being controlling or if my feelings are valid, and we've tried to talk about it but keep going in circles. We both want to respect each other but we're stuck between my discomfort and their sense of autonomy.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are caught between individual autonomy and relational impact in intimate partnership.

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