My spouse and I both want more spontaneous time together but we're so locked into our coordinated calendar system that we've forgotten how to not plan things and now 'spontaneous' requires scheduling which defeats the entire purpose. We've optimized the life out of our life.
More people experience this than they realize.
Your efficiency in coordinating time has eliminated the possibility of uncoordinated time.
“Where Are You with The examined calendar — whose time is it??”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.