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When couples revert to old patterns despite knowing healthier alternatives

My spouse and I went through couples therapy three years ago and learned so much about communication but whenever stress hits we revert to our old defensive patterns like we learned nothing, even though we both remember what works better.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Stress triggers override conscious learning, creating a gap between knowledge and practice.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Letting the past hold you vs. learning from it?”

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