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When parents and adult children navigate dating apps simultaneously

My teenage daughter and I both use dating apps now and she keeps asking me about my matches and giving me advice, but I feel like we're blurring boundaries in a way that makes me uncomfortable. We're bonding over shared dating struggles but I'm starting to worry that she's learning to see relationships as a game to be optimized rather than something organic to experience.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two generations sharing the same digital dating landscape discover that intimacy and guidance can become confused when the power dynamic shifts.

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