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When parent and teen both want change but can't create it

My teenager and I keep having the same conversation about phone use where we both agree they're on it too much but then nothing changes and I don't know if I should set harder boundaries or trust them to figure it out and they seem as frustrated as I am.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Agreement on the problem does not create the conditions for change, leaving both people feeling powerless.

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