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Scenario

When couples struggle with punctuality and expectations in East Asian family settings

My wife and I are stuck in this pattern where we're constantly late to my Korean in-laws' family gatherings but we can't talk about the real reason which is that my wife needs way more time to get ready and feel presentable than either of us want to admit, and now my mother-in-law makes these comments about respect and punctuality that we both just absorb in silence.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The collision between personal rhythms and cultural time expectations creates a silence that compounds the original problem.

Your guide for this
Laozi
Laozi works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with East Asian time and face-saving?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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