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How couples navigate financial fasting when coping styles clash

My wife and I committed to a 30-day spending fast after realizing we use shopping as therapy, but she keeps making 'emergency' purchases and I'm keeping a mental tally of every violation. The money isn't the real issue - it's that we're seeing how differently we cope with discomfort and I don't know how to bridge that gap without becoming the budget police.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Removing the escape valve of spending reveals the underlying patterns of how each person soothes anxiety and avoids difficult feelings.

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