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Scenario

When friend groups become dating app surveillance networks

Our friend group all met through dating apps originally, but now we're watching each other swipe and date and break up in this weird fishbowl way where everyone knows everyone's patterns and failures. We make jokes about it but there's this underlying judgment and comparison happening that's making me want to hide my dating life from the people I'm closest to.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Intimate knowledge of each other's romantic patterns creates a web of unspoken judgment that transforms friendship into performance.

Your guide for this
Laozi
Laozi works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Dating apps — the examined life?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.