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When long-distance couples get trapped in text message conflicts

We keep fighting over text about things that would be five-minute conversations in person and by the time we get on a call to resolve it we're both defensive about positions we don't even really hold. The medium is poisoning the message but we can't have every conversation face-to-face.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Communication tools shape the conflicts they carry, creating battles over phantom positions rather than real differences.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Long-distance relationships via technology?”

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