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Scenario

Why impossible standards perpetuate endless efforts

Every time my mother-in-law visits I deep clean my house for three days beforehand and she still finds things to criticize but I can't stop trying to impress her.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Seeking approval from those who withhold it becomes compulsive behavior that confirms our worst fears about ourselves.

Your guide for this
Laozi
Laozi works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with East Asian time and face-saving?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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