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Why dating apps can amplify insecurity about attractiveness

I keep swiping right on people who are clearly out of my league and getting no matches and it's making me feel worse about myself than if I hadn't tried at all.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

You're using rejection as confirmation of fears you already hold about yourself rather than questioning the arbitrary nature of digital attraction.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Dating apps — the examined life?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.