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How to navigate misrepresentation on dating apps

I went on a date with someone who was nothing like their photos and I felt deceived but also guilty for caring so much about appearance.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

You're caught between legitimate feelings of being misled and shame about your own superficiality, when both responses are natural parts of forming attraction.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Dating apps — the examined life?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.