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Why Unstructured Time Together Can Feel More Stressful Than Romantic

I'm dating someone from Morocco who thinks it's romantic to spend entire afternoons together doing nothing specific, but I feel anxious and unproductive just sitting in cafes without an agenda.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Task-oriented conditioning can make presence-based intimacy feel uncomfortable rather than connecting.

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