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When your partner tries to compete with porn fantasies

My girlfriend wants to try things she thinks I'll like based on what she assumes guys want but it's all stuff from porn and feels weird and performative.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The artificial standard has contaminated natural exploration, creating pressure to perform rather than discover what actually brings joy.

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