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When parental care becomes inappropriate boundaries

My mom calls me every morning at 7am to make sure I'm awake for work and I'm forty-three years old but I don't know how to tell her to stop without hurting her feelings.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Love expressed through control creates adult relationships that infantilize rather than honor growth and independence.

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