My Puerto Rican neighbors always invite me to stay longer when I stop by, but I feel rude accepting when I have a mental schedule, and rude declining when they're being generous with their time.
More people experience this than they realize.
Pre-planned time consciousness can make spontaneous generosity feel burdensome rather than nourishing.
“Where Are You with Monochronic vs. polychronic cultures?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.