I keep pulling away whenever my partner gets close and they keep pushing harder for intimacy, and we're both exhausted from this dance where my need for space makes them chase and their chasing makes me retreat even more. We love each other but we're stuck in this cycle where we're both getting triggered by exactly what the other person needs to feel safe.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people with different attachment styles are inadvertently activating each other's deepest fears through their natural ways of seeking security.
“Where Are You with Attachment Styles in Romantic Relationship?”
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