My adult children want me to downsize and move closer to one of them, but they can't agree on who should be responsible for me as I age. I love them all and I don't want to burden anyone, but their fighting about my future is breaking my heart and making me feel like a problem to be solved.
More people experience this than they realize.
The anticipation of dependency can transform love into negotiation, leaving everyone feeling both responsible and resentful.
“Where Are You with Ubuntu love — the communal dimension?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.