Periagoge
Scenario

When friends compete for the same opportunity

My best friend and I both applied to the same graduate program and she got in and I didn't, and now every conversation feels like I'm pretending to be happy for her while she's pretending not to feel guilty, and we're losing something real between us that I don't know how to get back.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Success and failure have introduced a performance into a friendship that used to be genuine.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Metta — Buddhist loving-kindness?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.