My best friend and I both come from families where our parents stayed together but weren't happy, and now we're both in long-term relationships questioning whether we're settling or being realistic. When we talk about it, we can't tell if we're encouraging each other to work harder or just reinforcing each other's fears about commitment.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're trying to distinguish between wisdom and wounds while relying on someone with the same inherited confusion.
“Where Are You with Your Parents' Relationship and How It Shaped Yours?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.