My best friend and I both fell hard for people at the same time and we keep comparing notes about the dopamine hits and the obsessive thoughts, but lately she's been judging my relationship as 'less real' because mine happened faster and felt more physically intense. We used to be each other's person for processing everything, but now there's this weird competition about whose love is more authentic or evolved.
More people experience this than they realize.
Scientific knowledge about love's mechanisms is being weaponized to create hierarchy between different ways of falling in love.
“Where Are You with Falling in love — the neuroscience and the phenomenology?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.