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Scenario

When friends compete over the authenticity of their falling in love experiences

My best friend and I both fell hard for people at the same time and we keep comparing notes about the dopamine hits and the obsessive thoughts, but lately she's been judging my relationship as 'less real' because mine happened faster and felt more physically intense. We used to be each other's person for processing everything, but now there's this weird competition about whose love is more authentic or evolved.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Scientific knowledge about love's mechanisms is being weaponized to create hierarchy between different ways of falling in love.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Falling in love — the neuroscience and the phenomenology?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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