Periagoge
Scenario

When friends experience unequal capacity for loving-kindness in shared practice

My best friend and I both struggle with self-compassion and started doing loving-kindness practice together for support, but I've noticed that I can generate genuine metta for them easily while they seem to find it much harder to feel loving-kindness toward me, and this imbalance is creating weird dynamics in our friendship.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Asymmetrical access to compassion reveals deeper wounds and creates unexpected intimacy challenges.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Metta — Buddhist loving-kindness?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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