My best friend and I have been friends for fifteen years but lately every time we hang out I come home feeling drained because they're going through a really hard time and I'm their only support. I want to be there for them but I'm starting to avoid their calls and I hate myself for it.
More people experience this than they realize.
Loyalty and self-preservation are at war, and the friend who's drowning cannot see that their lifeline is also drowning.
“Where Are You with Emotional Availability?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.