LibraryScenariosWhen friendship becomes a refuge from examining your love life
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When friendship becomes a refuge from examining your love life

My best friend and I have been inseparable since college but lately I've been pulling away because I'm realizing how much I've been using our friendship to avoid dealing with my own romantic patterns. I don't know how to tell her that loving her well might mean creating some distance while I figure out why I keep choosing unavailable people.

Mira
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

You're recognizing that your deepest friendship might be enabling you to avoid the hard work of understanding your romantic patterns.

Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The examined love life — what it means to love well?”

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