My best friend and I used to be the single ones in our group who did everything together, but now that I'm married and she's still dating, we both feel like we've lost something essential about our friendship and neither of us knows how to talk about missing who we used to be together.
More people experience this than they realize.
A core shared identity has dissolved, leaving both people mourning not just what was lost but who they were when they had it.
“Where Are You with Grief for lost identity — who you were before?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.