My boyfriend and I are both seventeen and we keep saying we love each other but we also keep hurting each other in ways that feel both devastating and completely fixable at the same time. We'll have these intense fights about nothing and then spend hours trying to understand what just happened between us, like we're archaeologists of our own mess.
More people experience this than they realize.
You are learning to love someone while still becoming yourselves, and the collision of growth and attachment creates wounds you don't yet know how to heal.
“Where Are You with Love in adolescence?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.