My brother and I both inherited our parents' lake house and we've been fighting about whether to sell it or keep it, but really we're fighting about different versions of family legacy - he wants to preserve our childhood memories exactly as they were, and I want to create new traditions with my own kids. We can't even have a conversation about it without one of us feeling like the other doesn't understand what family means.
More people experience this than they realize.
Your desires for how to honor the past while building the future have diverged, creating conflict about what preservation really means.
“Where Are You with Desire and its changes over time?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.