My brother and I never talked to our dad about how his drinking affected us, and now that he's been gone for two years, we're both carrying this weight of all the conversations we never had. We keep circling around it when we talk, but neither of us knows how to say what we actually feel about loving someone who hurt us and never getting to work it out with him.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are bound together by shared regret about what they never said to someone they've lost, but they can't find a way to speak this truth to each other.
“Where Are You with Grief and regret — what we wish we'd said?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.