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Scenario

When family members carry secrets about infidelity that affect group dynamics

My brother's wife cheated and he confided in me, but now at family gatherings I can barely look at her and my parents keep asking why I'm being cold, and I don't know if I'm protecting my brother's privacy or enabling everyone to pretend our family dynamic hasn't completely changed.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Holding someone else's betrayal creates a secondary betrayal of the family system, where the secret-keeper becomes complicit in a collective fiction.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
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Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Infidelity — all perspectives?”

Peri

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