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When parents disagree about how to help a child who is self-harming

My daughter has been cutting herself and my husband thinks we should take her phone away and get strict while I think we need to be gentler and get her more therapy, and we're so scared and disagreeing about everything that we're fighting in front of her when she needs us most.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Fear fractures the very unity needed to hold a struggling child, as different approaches to love create distance between those who must stand together.

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