My girlfriend and I have been together two years but she's still processing feelings for her ex who never wanted commitment, and while I appreciate her honesty, I'm starting to resent being the safe choice while she works through her feelings for someone unavailable. We both know this isn't fair to either of us but we don't know how to move through it.
More people experience this than they realize.
A relationship is being haunted by the question of whether you can truly choose someone new while still longing for someone who can't choose you back.
“Where Are You with Unrequited Love and Longing?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.