My husband and I are raising our kids with values that are different from what our extended families expect, and family events have become these careful performances where we're trying not to shame anyone while also not betraying what we believe. We're exhausted from pretending and our kids are starting to notice.
More people experience this than they realize.
Parenting across generational honor systems requires renegotiating love, respect, and belonging in real time.
“Where Are You with Love in Honor and Shame Cultures?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.