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When couples are both ambivalent about having children

My husband and I are trying to decide whether to have kids and we're both genuinely ambivalent — not disagreeing, just both uncertain — and the indecision itself is starting to strain our relationship.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Shared uncertainty about a life-defining decision can become its own source of distance if partners don't know how to be uncertain together.

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