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When couples struggle to distinguish healing from performing recovery

My husband and I are trying to recover from his affair and we're both working hard but I keep catching myself performing forgiveness instead of actually feeling it. We don't know how to tell the difference between healing and just getting better at pretending everything is okay.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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You're learning that genuine forgiveness and repair can't be rushed or performed, only lived into slowly.

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