My husband and I both want another baby but we're barely managing with the one we have, and every conversation about it turns into us reassuring each other instead of being honest about how scared we both are. We keep saying 'whatever you want' when what we mean is 'I don't know what I want and I'm terrified of choosing wrong.'
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are protecting each other from a fear they both share instead of facing it together.
“Where Are You with Long-term partnership — sustaining love over time?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.