My husband and I have been having the same fight for months about whether love is something you feel or something you do, and it's affecting every interaction we have. When he does loving things without the feeling behind it, I feel manipulated; when I feel love but don't show it his way, he feels unloved.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are discovering that their fundamental definitions of love are incompatible in daily practice.
“Where Are You with What love ultimately is — the examined final question?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.