My husband and I keep having the same fight about money but it's never actually about money and we both know it. We'll go weeks being careful and polite and then one of us will say something about spending and we're right back in it, attacking each other over things that happened years ago.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are using present conflicts to avoid grieving something they lost together but have never named.
“Where Are You with Divorce and Its Emotional Aftermath?”
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