My husband wants sex maybe once a month and I want it several times a week and we've been doing this dance for three years where I initiate and get turned down and then I stop initiating and he says he feels pressured by my disappointment even when I'm not asking for anything.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are caught in a cycle where one person's higher desire creates pressure that diminishes the other's lower desire, and neither knows how to break free without someone sacrificing their authentic needs.
“Where Are You with The Desire Gap in Partnership?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.