My mom and I have been in therapy together to work on our relationship but we've both gotten really good at performing insight and growth for the therapist while the real hurt between us stays exactly the same. We're healing in theory but not in practice.
More people experience this than they realize.
Sometimes learning the language of healing becomes another way to avoid the actual work of healing.
“Where Are You with Living with loss long-term?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.