My mom and I have this pattern where she calls when she's anxious and I fix whatever the problem is, but she never actually feels better and I'm starting to resent being her emotional support system. We both know something's wrong with how we do this, but neither of us knows how to change it.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people have created a dance of helping that actually helps no one but feels impossible to stop.
“Where Are You with Grief and love — what they share?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.